To Be or Not To Be; Days Twenty Nine and Thirty

My reaction time has always been on the slow side.  This makes me a bad driver and a slow decision maker.  But now, there is a whole new side revealed to me.  The goal is to be non-reactive.  This is, I explained to my husband, different than being passive aggressive.  This is about clarity and learning what I must do even when we bump into the hard edges of our marriage and we're each hanging on by our fingernails. Clarity.  Sometimes.